As I sat in the corner of my favorite MV coffee nook, I couldn’t help but acknowledge with a chuckle the meaning of the art hung above me. There, resided a painting of a mermaid with the transcription: "She knew some day the sea would call her home." I recently returned to my childhood home on Martha’s Vineyard with my husband to raise my dear daughter. I also returned, nearing the end of my Ph.D. program, to find a professional space in the community where I might contribute to its overall wellbeing.  We made this decision to leave Rochester, NY after weighing out the pros and cons of leaving our jobs, our newly-built home, and the life we had made for ourselves there. This is how we make decisions- together and evaluatively. We expose our assumptions, our biases, our wants, and our needs; weighing each-and-every-one against the other to determine the best possible outcome. Ultimately, we chose Martha’s Vineyard.

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